Whether you’re on your first date or you’ve been married for years, there’s nothing like enjoying a movie with your guy after a long day of work. There’s nothing worse than having to awkwardly apologize and skip a scene mid-film. Thankfully there’s an alternative to inappropriate content and movie embarrassment. Not only do you want a flick you can both enjoy, you also want one with content that stays within the realms of Christian virtue.In the end, there is no formula and no rote substitute for intellectually honest Christians seeking to care well for one another and to faithfully apply Scripture to infinitely varied relational circumstances.So with all that said, let's consider how the principle of caring for one another well in the early stages of a relationship might look.The first thing that should happen if it has not happened during the initiation of the relationship is that intentions should be established.Whatever that conversation looks like, intentions should be clear and it should be the man making them so. We spent every minute together for a month, and then he just stopped calling. The stage of early dating is not an engagement and holds no restrictions. I would agree that if you are in a serious committed relationship, this absolutely holds true, but all too often, people apply this principle in the early stages of dating when you are just getting to know one another.
This kind of error in judgment is not easily forgotten and repercussions can be more serious for women. It's not a good idea to date your boss or anyone else who could be considered a supervisor.You should honor the employee handbook, even if it means one of you has to find employment elsewhere.So should you jump ship on a great job just because a cute guy from the office winked at you in the elevator? But if you've gotten to know someone over time and you're both serious about moving your relationship to a romantic level while your employer has a no-dating policy, then one of you should leave the company.Before continuing with this column, please review the preamble included at the beginning of this series, "Biblical Dating: How It's Different From Modern Dating." * * * PART 3: Just Friends » As Christians in dating relationships, we want to avoid hurting one another and dishonoring Christ by "defrauding" (see NASB translation of 1 Thessalonians 4:6) our brothers and sisters in Christ by implying — through word or action — a higher level of commitment to that person than we have made before God.Because this sort of (perhaps unintentional) deception is a particular temptation in a dating context, we need to be deliberate about avoiding it.